Waiting Room

Waiting Room

My body was trembling and my heart was numb. My hands were wrapped tightly around the steering wheel as I somehow weaved in and out of traffic. My heart knew what my mind was so desperately trying to fight…I wanted hope, I wanted a miracle!

I will never forget that long drive to the hospital. I’m still not sure how I even drove my car because I remember my hands on my stomach the whole way there. I was praying, pleading and begging for my little girl to start moving.

I knew in my heart something was very bad, I knew God was trying to prepare me, but I just couldn’t listen; I couldn’t let go. I had plans and a life prepared for the precious life that had been growing so perfectly inside my womb, how could something be wrong?

Her lifeless little body curled up on that ultrasound machine, with no flickering heartbeat, is a vision I have often had nightmares about. It is a moment where I remember my world crashing faster than I could breathe, and yet it is a memory of my daughter I will never forget. I will never forget how perfect her little spine looked or how tiny her 10 little toes were.  Her arms were curled up to her chest as if she were sleeping ever so sweetly.

They placed me in a room where I would deliver my sweet baby. I remember the waiting…what was I waiting for?  Labor brings joy and yet what was I getting. In some ways, I just wanted her to stay inside me. I wanted to hold her close to my heart and never let go. My labor brought pain and yet joy I never imagined. I feel in love the moment they placed her in my arms. I wanted the moment to last forever.

I held her close to my heart and kissed her ever so gently. Tears rolled from my eyes as my heart tried to understand God’s plan, His purpose.

Why? Why does He need her? I know that His plans are greater than any I could ever imagine, but why did He let her go.

I waited so long for her, I longed for her, I prayed for her.

I was given her and I loved her and then I had to let go and understand that God had bigger plans for her life.

We all fall down, and often it feels like the storm we are facing has no end, and yet God does have a plan. We search, pray and beg God for answers and then we can’t seem to understand when His answer is no because it does not align with the plans we had for ourselves.

God knows best, sees all and has a purpose for your life, my life. So often I have felt like I am stuck in that waiting room of life and I am never going to get an answer or maybe the answer I want, but God is still there. He is waiting with you and guiding you to His perfect plan, which sometimes includes saying no.

Death, divorce, finance, family, children and jobs are only a handful of situations which leave you waiting and pleading with God for help. God may so no, He may say yes, and He may say wait, but no matter what He says you will only see and understand His answer when you have a constant relationship with Him.

Give your life to Him and let Him lead you through the waiting room and into the life He has in store.

 

Happy Thanksgiving 2012

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

Most holidays always seem too filled with a certain level of hustle and bustle and well let’s face it; stress! We search for the perfect recipe and holiday décor to light up the room as our guest arrive. We cook and plan and research until it seems we can do no more. And then…does the food matter? Does the décor matter? Yes, it is pretty and yes, good food is always a treat, but why all the stress?

I learned something while preparing our meal and gathering this year; it’s the people that matter. I love putting it all together, but if I let the perfection of it all get too me then I have lost what I should really be thankful for.

It does not matter if the turkey is perfect or the table is set just right. What matters is that my kids made cookies and we laughed when the bag exploded all over the floor and the macaroni and cheese went flying all over the place. The smiles on my kids faces when my mom and step dad showed up early this morning and surprised us. (Earlier then we thought). It matters that we are together and we are making memories.

Family can be gone way too soon and way before we are ready. Don’t let the stress of holidays take away from the memories you could be making…

Life is short...too short...MAKE THE MOST OF EVERY MOMENT GOD GIVES YOU!!!

Be thankful today! Be blessed by all God has given you. Be blessed by all God has done! He is good!

Happy Thanksgiving!!!

 

Making cookies...What didn't burst onto the floor that is....lol

 

My pasta maker!!! His favorite. He was SO proud!

 

My sweet cook! Chocolate overload!!!

 

The food that God has blessed us to enjoy together....YUMMY!

 

A little football.

 

A perfect day.....

Take a Stand 2012

Who will you Stand for in 2012

 “Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God.”

Romans 13

I’ve never really been too big into politics, so I guess you can imagine that I really dislike election time. Now, don’t get me wrong, the election is VERY important, and I think it is very important that we all vote, but I don’t like what it does to everyone.

It is battle in every aspect of the word. Republican versus democrat, this law versus that law, he did this but he did that, when does it stop?

November 6^th!

The party or law you choose may not win, you might not get your way…

I understand that people are passionate about what they feel, but God’s people should be spending more time with Him about who and what to vote for, then trying to convince everyone else what is right or wrong.

It is so important that we all do our homework and really understand who and what we are voting for, but more importantly we need to ask ourselves, WHO do we stand for and WHO are we fighting for?

No matter how the election turns out our battle is still the same. At the finish line who is in control? Who is left standing when we are all too weak to keep fighting? Who has even given us the freedom to make a choice in the first place?

 I stand for Christ. No matter who wins, I still put my faith in Him.

I guess what I am trying to say is, I just hate all the fighting while trying to convince others your side is right.

God loved us so much He gave us the freedom to make a choice. If God's people are making choices based on biblical principles then our choices are Christ centered and God directed.

When it is all over, in the end, God is in control! He allows us to make the choice and then I believe He will lead us from there. He allows everything to happen...

We have the freedom to make a choice and God should be guiding that choice through pray and direction.

Who do you stand for? Who are teaching your children to stand for, to respect? I want my children to know that God allows and appoints ALL kings and leaders and we will respect them no matter what. No matter how angry politics may make us, God can and will lead His people to His will, even if we don't understand it.

Romans 13 says, “Let everyone be subject to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God.”

As the election comes to an end and you head out to vote, just remember, Today is a gift from Him. No matter what our future holds, He will be there. We may be surprised, and we may or may not like how certain things end up, but God is leading us if only we choose to follow.

Who do you stand for today?  Can we let go of the control we so desperately think we hold? Make a choice and give it to God.

Giving up control does not mean that we simply stand on the sidelines and wait for God to sweep us into His arms and flow blessings upon us. No, it simply means that we are giving Him the control to lead us; guide us, and direct us toward His will and not our own.

Who will choose today? Forever?

Pray for our nation today. Pray for America!!!

We need God more then EVER!!!

Johnny Diaz: Stand For You Listen to the words, it is SO perfect!!! 

March Of Dimes Walk

The weeks following Bethany’s death were anything but normal. I would go to bed and yet never sleep. I would wake up in deep sweats from nightmares haunting my very existence.

I often found myself on my face, buried in the ground, crying out for God to make my life feel right again…somehow…someway.

Visions of her little face and perfect 7lb 3 oz. body would race through my mind, I couldn’t understand; I didn’t want to understand.

I still remember the phone call from the doctor with her autopsy report. I had been waiting for what felt like months for that call, and it had finally come.

Her words, “Nothing was wrong, “were almost as hard as the night I went to the hospital and heard the words, “I’m sorry, there is no heartbeat.”

How could there be nothing wrong? How does a full term healthy pregnancy and healthy baby just die?

I think a part of me had longed for that phone call to hear that something was wrong. If I could wrap my hands around something that caused her death then at least I could begin to heal and try to understand that she was sick.

I did not get that. I got nothing. I got no answers. She was healthy. She was perfect.

So why?

It took a long time for me to come to understand that I will never get an answer until I see my Lord face to face. I had to learn the hardest lesson for any parent to learn; my children are not mine, they are God’s. I was given 37 weeks to feel her, love her and watch her grow. That was God’s plan for her.

I will never fully understand God’s plan, but I do know that through her life and death she has a voice. She has made me who I am today and reminds me of who I want to be every day. I want to help others and be a voice for hurting moms everywhere.

Through His strength I am learning that I can be a part of things that are bigger than even I can imagine. My daughter came home from school and asked if she could participate in the March of Dimes Walk with her school. I’m not sure she really even began to understand what this meant to me.

March of Dimes not only raises money to help babies who are born to soon and need help, but it also helps to research stillbirth and why it happens so often.  Too many babies leave this world too soon and too many parents are left with empty arms.

I was honored to walk with my daughter who is still with me in honor of my daughter in Heaven. I was amazed at how many people came to the walk and I got to meet some amazing parents who have gone through what I have.

I wish I had longer with Bethany here on Earth, but I have a lifetime to show the World God’s amazing love through her story and an Eternity to be with her.